I have just finished watching the documentary “Slut”.
It is a look at the origins, use and repercussions of the word slut.
How it began as a term to describe women who kept messy houses and has
become a word to describe, apparently, any woman who at any time
enjoys any type of sex. Or implies that she might. Or really, just
exists.
The film looked at whether or not the word slut should be added to the
list of Seven, the seven words that a congressman from California
tried to ban. Said list includes, Piss, Cocksucker, Ass hole, and Fuck
among others. Is Piss really more powerful and degrading and damaging
than Slut? Would banning the word slut end its use? We would still
have Whore, Tramp, Skank etc. So what would banning that one word
truly do? What would banning any word truly do?
Instead of placing the blame on the word, shouldn’t we be looking at
the mentality- the double standards- that create the attitude with
which the word is used?
We look at women who have multiple sexual partners as sluts. We look
at women who dance to closely to our significant other as sluts. We
look at women in tight clothes as sluts. For no other reason, other
than that they are not fitting into what we are told is appropriate.
Yet, what woman hasn’t worn tight clothes out to a club, or danced
with a guy who she isn’t married to. How many women in this day and
age actually wait until they are married to have sex. And if, by
chance, you are that woman who waits, you are stuck with the brand of
prude. And, the worst part, the majority of the time it is another
woman who brands you with this Slut label.
Ignoring the blatant double standard that exists amongst men and women
and sexuality- men + lots of sex = “Da Man” vs. women + lots of sex =
“Slut” – and focusing on the word itself, would the banning of the
word end the mentality? Would deleting this word from the English
language allow for the labeling, the branding of a woman’s entire
being based on one thing, end?
So, ultimately, my confusion lies in that people are so focused on the
word, the four letters strung together, that they are ignoring the
rational- or lack thereof- that goes into the use of the word. There
are other words that can be used the same way. You can delete the “N”
word from people’s minds, but you could not delete the racist
mentality that backs its negative use. You can delete Slut from
people’s minds but you cannot delete the mentality that insists on its
continued use. And the sad part is, that with racism, at least you
know that it is coming. If you are a black person, you know that you
will have to deal with it, probably every day of your life. If you are
a woman, you never know what will make someone call you a slut. You
could wear the wrong shirt, dance with the wrong man, or kiss on the
wrong date. It is so completely arbitrary. Which is, perhaps, why it
can be so much more damaging than the racial epithets that are used.
Because while they are both backed by the same misguided hate and
ignorance, one is expected while the other is usually from out of
nowhere.